Top 10 signs that she’s a keeper
by Jonathan Carlson
I must admit that playing the field is a whole lot of fun, but so is being in a serious relationship — provided that it’s with the right woman.
But how do you know if she really is the right woman for you?
If she possesses the following 10 traits, my advice is that you hold on to her for dear life. You don’t want to run the risk of having some other guy swoop down and steal her away from you.
purple lines are my comments… - aj
10. She’s independent
No one wants a girlfriend they have to baby-sit. Once in a while — like if she’s had a rough day at work — it’s great to be her shoulder to cry on. But if she can’t seem to function without you and is constantly after you, she will eventually make you feel like you’re suffocating, which is a surefire way to get you running for the nearest exit. On the other hand, if she has her very own personality and opinions; can stand on her own two feet, both financially and emotionally; and is able to enjoy time away from you (while still missing you, of course) then she must be a great girlfriend.
i would say that pen would be a little bit of both - dependent/independent. i would not mind baby-sitting her but not up to the point of her totally relying on me. it is fun taking turns on pampering each other - massage, preparing food, tucking her in bed, etc. it is our own way of showing affection. i guess that is not what being dependend discussed here. of course she is independent in every way. she can totally “enjoy time away from you (while still missing you, of course)”
9. She’s intelligent
I hate to be the one to tell you this, but the bimbo routine gets real old, real fast. A woman who can meet you at an intellectual level is a total turn-on. Instead of being the one in total control, you’ll find yourself trying to figure out what’s really going on in that brain of hers.
An intelligent woman will constantly surprise you and keep you on your toes — she won’t let you get bored of her. Besides, it’s nice to have something to talk about when you’re not, er, otherwise occupied.
isn’t it obvious? ü
8. She’s sexual
A great girlfriend has to be sexually compatible with you. For instance, if you’re the hardcore leather type and she’s the dainty lingerie type, well, that could be a problem. The two of you have to be on the same page
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or she at least has to be willing to expand her sexual horizons from time to time.
no comment… just yet
7. She’s beautiful
I know, this one is kind of obvious, but important nonetheless. A great girlfriend will not only want to look good for you, but also for herself. She should always look her best and be well put together.
given.
one of the very first things why i was attracted to her. she has these features that i really adore…
6. She respects you
This is a biggie. Your woman must respect you. This means that she listens to you, even if she doesn’t necessarily agree with what you’re saying. And, of course, she never tries to demean or belittle you in any way, shape, or form.
true. we have no problem whatsoever in this number.
5. She lets you be a man
Do not — I repeat — do not get involved with a woman who tries to get you to eat cottage cheese and fruit for breakfast and insists that you give up poker night with the guys. You will end up resenting her more than you can imagine. A good girlfriend lets you be a guy in all your glory, poker night and all. If she’s a great girlfriend, she’ll even bring you and your buddies a couple of beers and make you some of her famous sandwiches.
She has to understand that men and women
are different and should allow you to be yourself. Just like you wouldn’t deprive her of going shopping with her best girlfriend, she shouldn’t expect you to give up the guys for her.
i have no problem with pen regarding my inuman session with the guys. these sessions usually happen once or twice a month and she has no complains whatsoever with this setup.
4. She’s nagless
There is nothing worse than a nag! A great girlfriend knows this and chooses her battles wisely. She knows when to speak-up and when to let it slide. You don’t want a girlfriend who will give you the heights of hell for leaving a couple of dishes in the sink occasionally.
However, if you live together and you stay out all night without calling her, and she lets you have it, then you’re setting yourself up for disaster. This is a situation that nobody would let slide — not even a great girlfriend.
i will be the first to walk-out of the relationship should this happen.
3. She gets along with friends & family
A great girlfriend will not only help your mom in the kitchen, listen to your dad’s stories, and hang out with your friends, she will enjoy it.
She’ll make a real effort to get to know and love the most important people in your life. And she won’t try to get you to ditch your best buds.
She’ll actually empathize with your brother’s getting dumped and suggest that you guys take him out to cheer him up. Not only that, but your friends won’t roll their eyes and moan when you mention that she’ll be joining you guys when she gets off work (yes, women like this do exist).
though she only met my family a few times, i would say that she goes along well with them, especially my sisters. she is that big sister to all of them and she treats them the kid sisters she never had.
2. She loves you
If you have found a woman who loves you for who you really are and not who you pretend or try to be sometimes, you should definitely hang on to her. A woman who doesn’t try to change you is hard to find. Of course, everyone has their slightly annoying habits that their mate has to contend with, but if she really loves you, she will be able to cope with these.
Another way to know if she really loves you is by observing the way she looks at you and treats you on an everyday basis. If the sight of you doesn’t seem to faze her either way, and she doesn’t really seem to care about what you have to say, she’s either playing very hard to get, or sees you as just some guy. But if a surprise visit or phone call from you makes her light up, there’s no denying that she loves you.
awwwww…..
1. She makes you want to be a better man
Stop making that face… Any man who has a great girlfriend or wife will tell you that she makes him want to be a better man. She doesn’t have to say or do anything; it just is that way. If you suddenly feel bad about how you treated your sister or find yourself trying to get your finances in order, you might want to think about your motivation for doing so. It could be love.
definitely. she would support all my endeavors and hardships. we grow together.. emotionally, spiritually and intellectually.
do you already have her?
So, if this list seems to describe your current flame, you, my friend, are styling. In fact, you are probably the envy of all of your friends, even if they tease you for losing your status as “king player.”
However, if the woman you are dating is more like the polar opposite, then I don’t think that getting serious with her would be in your best interest — but you knew that already, didn’t you?
i think i already have the girl of my dreams…
whew! it was a hectic but fun weekend!
SATURDAY MORNING
it was D-Day for Marla & Mark. the event started around 3pm but my day started as early as 8am.
you see, i live waaay across the marriage site, so i have to get up early, prepare and ride the bus to get there. it took me 3h13m37s from mkna to pacita. i had it timed using my n6610. i took the mrt from cubao to magallanes to save some time. traffic along edsa is getting worse everyday.
i arrived at pacita around 2:30 and head directly at david’s coz pen and company were there (her mom and friend cleo). we then went home and they changed to their gowns.
pen looked great even though she kept on ranting about her appearance. she looked like a fairy with her hairstyle and the peach gown she wore (with matching shawl). pen, me and her mom attended the ceremony. her brother eins and her girlfriend drove us at the church using ruth’s revo.
the ceremony was a breeze. i took lots of pictures, clicking at every action happening. what bored most of the crowd was the looong photo-shoot after the ceremony. i guess it took an hour and a half. the crowd was growing listless not to mention hungry.
anyway, after the photo-shoot, we headed at the reception place. this time eins and ruth tagged along. the place was rather small. there was a pool and a billiard table. makeshift tables had to be put-up for the overflowing guests. the queue at the food was long and we were so hungry at that time. there were lots of foods (typical filipino handaan). /*rant mode on*/ what ticked me was that after eating, guests started to pack-up. i mean, even though i am not the one feeding them, they should have at least stayed and watched the program proper. it was impolite to leave that early. it shows that you are only after the free food. i am proud to say that we finished the whole program even though i told pen that i have to leave early.
as usual, goodbyes were so tagal. what gives? it’s not as if you will not see the bride and groom anymore. me, i just gave marla a quick nod and wink to bid farewell. pen and cleo were stuck there with the other abays hugging each other.
we headed at pen’s place then it’s time for me to go and meet kuya ronald.
SATURDAY EVENING
i have to meet kuya ronald at balibago complex coz i dont know how to go directly to their house. eins and ruth were kind enough to accompany me to the meeting place, pen tagged along. meeting place was changed to robinson’s big R instead. so we headed there (it was nearer than the previous place).
when we arrived at the place, i stepped out of the revo and looked for them. the whole time i was looking for them, eins, ruth and pen won’t go away just yet. i felt kinda embarrased while they were looking out for me. para akong bata na binabantayan ng matatanda. hehehe. just in time, i saw their white crosswind parked discreetly behind the huge ford explorer. as it is, kuya wanted to play a prank on me. tough luck i told him later on. by this time, pen and company headed home after waving goodbye.
kuya’s whole family were there. they brought some groceries first before we headed to alfonso homes. home (at least for the weekend) at last. i unpacked the ps2 and we played NBA Live 2k3 until 3 in the morning! we were great! we played cooperative game and we smashed the opponent with style! galeng!
SUNDAY
from kuya’s home, we headed to nandy’s home at golden city. kuya had to go work on a sunday while his wife, ate gelli, had to go to the hospital. me and jem-jem went ahead to golden city.
as usual, nandy and me just played ps2 and civ3 on pc the whole day/night. nothing more. talk about being busy the whole day ü. we didn’t even bother to go with their usual sunday family malling.
MONDAY
EK DAY!
well, that was the origina
l plan. pen and me just found out before we go that the place was closed on mondays and tuesdays! damn it!
we have to reschedule the trip on another day… so far this nov. 8th.
because nothing else was planned, we just stayed in their home the whole day. i felt my adrenaline dropped and felt sleepy the whole time. i cant fight the sleepiness in me that time.
hopefully, the re-scheduled EK would push through this time. i really need time to unwind and relax my state of mind. not to mention spend quality time with my girlfriend.
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i think that’s about it. first time to have written one long entry.
thanks for reading. ü
